Nearly all married parents who have serious problems in their relationship debate whether it's better for their children if they remain together or divorce. Divorce is nearly always upsetting for kids to some degree. However, living in a home where parents are constantly fighting or not speaking isn't healthy either.
If you're facing your first holiday season as a newly-separated or divorced parent, you're likely doing so with some sense of sadness and anxiety. No matter what your custody and visitation agreement is with your spouse, the kids are probably going to be spending some part of their Thanksgiving and Christmas vacations with their other parent.
Sometimes the worst events and circumstances can provide the best teachable moments for our children. Divorce is one of those. As stressful as this time may be for them, if parents model positive behavior, kids can learn a lot about how to handle conflict in a constructive manner, deal with negative emotions and work with people they may not see eye to eye with. These are all skills they will need as they move into adulthood.
If you and your spouse finally made the difficult decision to divorce after your summer vacation, you're not alone. Sociologists say that there are two peak months for divorce filings – August and March. These follow traditional summer and winter family vacation times.
When couples who are parents divorce, they never really completely end their relationship. They have to find a way to co-parent their children despite whatever residual issues they have from their marriage. Often the conflicts they had as partners morph into parenting conflicts.
When you're crafting a child custody plan, it's easy to think about the facts: when you have to go to work, when your child goes to school, and other dates and times. You're trying to agree on a schedule that works.
Co-parenting after a divorce always has its challenges. You and your spouse take turns being single parents of sorts. Therefore, you likely find yourself making more parenting decisions than you did when you were married. This is a time when many people who left the discipline or other parenting issues to their spouse now have to step up and make decisions without someone else there to back them up.
After going through a divorce, you are probably ready to have some time away from your ex. If you have children, you might not be able to get this time because you and your ex will still have to deal with other when it comes to the children. There are several things that you can do to make this easier. Here are a few tips we have for you:
Now that the busy vacation season is here, it is time for parents to make last minute plans for travel. When a parent has to deal with the conditions of a child custody agreement, this can be a bit more difficult than what it is for other parents.
All responsible parents understand that a divorce can be difficult, sad and stressful for children, However, they may not consider that their kids are actually going through a grieving process. While a loved one hasn't died, they've lost the family dynamic they knew and having their parents together as a couple.