The author Herman Hesse famously said, "Some of us think holding on makes us strong, but sometimes it is letting go." This could easily be about divorce. Many try to hang on to a dead marriage because they think they're being strong for the children or holding the family together. Some stubbornly hang on for years and years, ignoring their needs and never living the life they deserve. There are times when it's better for everyone involved to just let go.
Here are some of the signs it might be time:
- You don't spend time together anymore. Even if you're in the same house, you're off doing things separate from one another.
- Your spouse just doesn't care. It takes both people working hard to save a marriage. You can do your part, but if your spouse refuses, salvaging the relationship may be impossible.
- One spouse has been unfaithful and, no matter how hard you try, you can't get past it.
- Communication has ground to a halt. It's a cliché for a reason: communication is the key to a good marriage. If that's completely gone, it may be hard to resolve your issues.
- There's no more intimacy. This isn't just how often you have sex. You no longer hold hands or do the small things that show you're a team.
- You dream about being single. You find yourself thinking about your single days too often, or imagining what you would do if you were free of the marriage.
If you feel the signs are pointing to a divorce, you may want to speak to a family law attorney about your options.