Many divorcing parents make getting as great a share of custody as possible their priority. It’s easy to understand why they might take this route. They love spending time with their children and hate the thought of that not seeing them as much as possible.
If you are considering doing the same yourself, it’s important to consider whether it is really the best idea. Here are three reasons why it might not be.
1. It increases the chance of a difficult divorce
Divorces tend to be simpler when spouses are willing to cooperate to help ensure both come out of the marriage as happy as possible. When spouses focus only on what they want, without regard for what their spouse might want, it increases the chance of conflict and drawn out proceedings. Accepting that your spouse likely want to have the kids as much as you do and trying to find a fairer split of custody and parenting time is usually for the best.
2. It might be harder work than you expect
Some parents go into a divorce underestimating just how much their spouse did with regard to the kids. If they were to get the lion’s share of custody they want, they might soon find themselves struggling to make time for themselves. This can be particularly pertinent in times when the children are off school.
3. It may not be ideal for the kids
Even if you believe your soon-to-be ex has been a bad spouse, your children may have a very different view of them as a parent. With a few exceptions, most children want to spend time with both parents and benefit from being able to do so regularly.
It’s crucial to remember that courts look favorably on custody agreements that are in the best interests of the children rather than catering to either parent’s preferences. Learning more about what this means can help you navigate your divorce.
