Divorce and separation are hard for everyone, not just the parents. Going from one home to two is a major change for the kids, upsetting everything they’ve ever known about home life. And whether they’re aware of it or not, the parents’ behavior has a major impact on their children and how well they are able to deal with the transition. Some key facts are useful to know for anyone going through this life change in Rhode Island.
Lead by example
The children’s ability to cope will be heavily based on the way you and your ex-partner conduct yourselves. It tends to make things much easier for the kids if you take the time to prop them up and help them thrive in this difficult situation.
Openness is essential if you are to successfully adapt your children to a two-household lifestyle. As much as possible, don’t keep secrets from the kids. Make sure they’re aware that you’re always there for them. That way they’ll go to you first when they have problems instead of feeling anxious and trying to seek answers on their own.
Consistency is key
The kids will need a schedule that they can count on during this period after the divorce most of all. It’s important to have at least one thing they can rely on when everything else is up in the air. So many things are out of their control, this gives them a small sense of stability.
Try to keep children out of the middle. The kids shouldn’t serve as the parents’ messengers. As co-parents, it’s up to you to communicate with each other directly.
Make sure to clear the air as needed so that small issues don’t fester and turn into bigger problems. Practice clear communication as you go through these child custody changes together.
Remember to be considerate and check in regularly. Both co-parents should try to equally participate in their kids’ lives, and it’s helpful to be as consistent as possible between the two houses.
