When most parents divorce, they work out a child support agreement (or a court determines one for them.) The agreement may be modified based on a significant change in circumstances, such as if the paying parent loses a job. However, what if one of the parents...
Child Custody & Support
Handling a co-parent who is speaking negatively about you
If you've read anything about healthy parenting after divorce, you know that you should never speak ill of your co-parent to your children. However, what happens if you find out that your ex is criticizing your parenting or saying negative things about you to your...
Why parallel parenting may be the best choice after divorce
If the relationship between you and your soon-to-be ex is still too toxic for the two of you to communicate effectively as co-parents, your attorney or someone else may have mentioned the idea of "parallel parenting." This type of arrangement allows parents to remain...
Help your kids share vacation memories after divorce
With spring break approaching and then summer not too far behind, newly-separated or divorced parents may be dreading spending time away from their kids while they're off making memories with their other parent. Vacations make up some of our best memories -- both as...
The importance of creating new ‘holidays’ to share with your kids
For children of divorce and their parents, major holidays can be among the most difficult times of the year. Often, children spend major holidays like Christmas and Thanksgiving with just one parent, which can be bittersweet for them and sad for the parent who isn't...
The ramifications of failing to pay child support
Child support is based on a binding court order. It's not something parents do to be kind to their kids or to help out an ex. As such, they can't stop paying simply because they don't want to or because they failed to save up enough money after other expenses. It's a...
How can you avoid toxic communication with your co-parent?
Toxic relationships don't necessarily become less toxic when a couple parts ways. In fact, sometimes, the stress and conflict of divorce can bring even more animosity between people. However, when you have children, you have to find a way to communicate civilly for...
Focus on the big matters and let the small ones go
For a child, having parents who don't live together is often difficult to handle. If you are a parent in that position, you need to think carefully about how you are going to deal with your child's other parent. It might seem all too easy to just nitpick at everything...
Does it make sense to split custody of the kids between parents?
When married couples split up, they often don't initiate divorce proceedings in an amicable fashion. Especially, when kids are in the picture, the prospect of a parent not getting to spend his or her free time with his or her child may make things quite difficult to...
Debating the possibility of divorce when you have kids
Nearly all married parents who have serious problems in their relationship debate whether it's better for their children if they remain together or divorce. Divorce is nearly always upsetting for kids to some degree. However, living in a home where parents are...

